Do you want something it could be a new job, a promotion, wanting to start a business but feel like something is stopping you?

I used to say “yes” far too often. Yes, I’ll do that for you, even when I was really busy or tired and I didn’t want to do. Yes, to people who drained me. Yes, to demands that left me depleted. I thought being available made me kind, helpful, even lovable. But deep down, I was tired, overwhelmed, and quietly resentful. When someone asked me where are your boundaries? I had no idea what this meant. When I found Emotional Freedom Techniques / tapping it was the answer I didn’t know I needed. I began to understand what boundaries are and why they are needed and how it is possible, after the emotions have been cleared around a person or people pleasing behaviours, to put a boundary in place.

When we think of relationships, we often automatically think of romantic ones, but we experience many different kinds of relationships. We have relationships with our parents, siblings, children, friends, and colleagues, and any of these can face difficulties or go through challenging times.

Co-dependency is a term we’re hearing more often, but what does it mean, and how can we recognize it in ourselves or those we care about?